Chillin’
What a great way to study or just spend time together. You don’t have to be humping like bunnies to enjoy each other.
This image is from the Of the Moon and Sea Tumblr.
from HowToMakeMeCome.com
A few years ago something strange started happening to me. Every single guy I hooked up with attempted to have anal sex with me. I’m not sure if it just suddenly became a trend or if there’s something about me that specifically says 'Hey, I’d love it if you shoved your giant dick up my ass.' Let me also say, none of these guys asked, they just did it."
An Unusual Sex Survey
We’ve now collected more than 11,000 of your sex surveys. The men’s survey answers are often predictable. That’s why this survey stood out as being unusual.
This man likes having sex with women, but he is aroused by looking at penises. He posts photos of his own penis online every day. He also enjoys transgender porn and cock’n’ball torture. So if you’re a guy who is into the things this man is, you can take solace in knowing that you’re not alone.
A 32-Year Old Man
I am a sperm-donor baby and never knew my father.
I grew up identifying as straight and have only had physical/romantic relationships with women. But now I consider myself “open to all options” and have been interacting more erotically with men in online forums. I am still strongly attracted to women, but I also find men’s genitals incredibly arousing.
Is semen safer to eat than sprouts?
The nation’s most prominent food safety-lawyer has made a list of the six foods he will never eat. This guy has sued Chili’s, Chi-Chi’s, Chipotle, Costco, ConAgra, Dole, KFC, McDonald’s, Odwalla, Sizzler, Taco Bell and Wendy’s. He clearly knows his food borne bacteria.
High on his list of the most dangerous foods are raw bean sprouts—including alfalfa, mung beans, clover and radish sprouts. These can make you very sick due to bacterial contamination of their seeds.
Bean sprouts smell like semen and semen smells like bean sprouts. That’s because they both contain a chemical called spermine. But it seems like semen is safer to swallow. However, in the overall scheme of things, French kissing is probably a more frequent source of disease transmission than swallowing semen or eating sprouts.
What is polyamory?
Polyamory is when a relationship involves more than two people, with the consent of everyone involved. Polyamory is a broad term which can include group relationships, or it can be a single person who chooses to have multiple relationships without an agreement of monogamy. The relationships often include friendship, love, and emotional commitment in addition to sex.
Polyamory is different from swinging. Swinging is where primary couples switch partners while everyone is in the same location. Swinging is usually more about recreational sex, while people who are into polyamory share emotional as well as sexual feelings.
A new STI that should make you want to use condoms
There’s a recently discovered sexually transmitted infection called Mycoplasma genitalium. It was first discovered in 1980, but researchers weren’t even sure it was an STI for several years. It is extremely small and difficult to culture, and there are no approved tests to detect it.
Some of the challenges scientists have faced with Mycoplasma genitalium are similar to the story of the blind men and the elephant. But unlike the elephant, which is one of the largest living creatures, this new STI is one of the smallest living organisms ever discovered. It has the shortest genetic code of any single-cell organism that is capable of self-replication, yet it can cause a man’s urethra to become chronically inflamed and make his penis constantly drip. Or it may be able to attach to a sperm and get a free ride up a woman’s fallopian tubes where it could possibly give her pelvic inflammatory disease.
A considerable problem in treating Mycoplasma genitalium is that it doesn’t have a cell wall. Most antibiotics work by attacking a protein in the bacteria’s cell wall. So if there’s no cell wall, there are fewer ways to kill the bacteria. Drinking a Slurpee at 7-11 would be as effective in fighting this bacteria as most front line antibiotics.
Another problem is how this new STI is quickly becoming resistant to the few treatments we do have. So if you are having casual sex or you are not exclusive, be sure to use condoms.
Website of the Week
There’s an interesting website called How to Make Me Come. It’s made up of short essays by women. Here are the titles of some of the posts, which every male in the world should be required to read before the age of 21:
If A Guy Knew The Things That Got Me Off, I Think He’d Run For The Hills
You Broke Every Rule I Ever Had About Men – And I’ll Always Love You For It
I’ve Had Amazing Sex With One-Night Stands And Horrible Sex With A Long-Time Boyfriend
If I Tell You To Do Something Harder… I Really Mean It
I Didn’t Come But He’d Get Me Wetter And Wetter, And He Made Me Laugh, Which Is Almost Better
Olympic Champion Gus Kenworthy Comes Out
Gus Kenworthy, who was an olympic freestyle skiing medalist at the 2014 Sochi Games, came out as being gay last December.
Kenworthy told Us Magazine, “I used to hook up with girls to be cool with the guys; there were times I would cry afterwards.” (Some of the women he dated included Miley Cyrus and figure skater Gracie Gold.)
“I was worried I’d be known as ‘the gay skier’… and everything else about me would be overlooked.” Nothing of the sort happened. Friends and family have been incredibly supportive.
Kenworthy says it’s insane how many gay athletes have since come out to him, several who are still closeted. Because he competes in such a rugged action sport, he feels like he is helping battle gay stereotypes.
Premature Ejaculation? Delayed Ejaculation?
If you or a male partner feel like you are coming too soon or you have what feels like the opposite issue and are taking forever, look no further!
CLICK HERE for a free copy of the chapter on premature ejaculation (Dyslexia of the Penis) from the Guide To Getting It On.
CLICK HERE for a free copy of the chapter on delayed ejaculation (Delayed Ejaculation) from the Guide To Getting It On.
Moisture Wicking Underwear and Sportswear
We’ve always been told that cotton is best, especially for the crotches of women’s underwear. But that’s no longer the case now that we have third generation mositure-wicking fabrics.
Moisture wicking fabrics are much thinner than cotton. They are designed with special fibers that whisk moisture and sweat away from your skin and distribute it over the outer surface of the fabric, where it can dry quickly. This is very different from cotton, which holds moisture in the center of the fabric and takes a long time to dry.
Moisture wicking fabric also has antibacterial properties. That’s because it dries quickly so bacteria can’t form inside of it like it does inside of cotton — so your underwear is less likely to smell like the inside of a boys’ high school locker room.
Cotton holds sweat like this.
Thanks to The Underwear Expert for an explanation of moisture wicking material.
A big thanks to DreX & Heather at KGO 810 Radio, San Francisco
For having Dr. Paul on their show. A heartfelt thanks to DreX and Heather Hamann for being such kind, generous, and fun radio hosts. KGO has never been in better hands!
Most guys are not porn sized
The average erection is between 5.25 and 5.5 inches long.
Click the navigation for a slideshow of normal-sized men.
Two of women’s more frequent sex fantasies
After reading more than 5,000 women’s sex surveys, two of the fantasies that come up more often than others are to have a threesome and to be spanked in a way that’s erotic. If either of these ring true and you are planning to try one or the other in real life, here are some helpful resources.
THREESOMES: CLICK HERE for a copy of the free chapter on threesomes from the Guide To Getting It On. Most threesomes involve an established couple and a third person. There are conversations the couple should have ahead of time — with each other and then with the third. And there are things the third person should consider beforehand. This chapter includes a helpful list of what to know about threesomes before having one.
SPANKING: Anyone can spank you, but doing it in a way that fills both partners’erotic needs takes effort and preparation. Fortunately, Janet Hardy’s new book Spanking for Lovers has just been released. Janet has been the publisher and author of some of the most respected books on non-vanilla sex. Her common sense approach and years of experience make her a great resource on spanking. You won’t find a better book on the subject.
Also, The Pleasure Mechanics have a helpful video on spanking called Erotic Spanking Mastery. Couples can feel comfortable watching it together.
The exceptional spanking image above is from the Blink of an Eye Tumblr.
What is a Varicocele?
The testicles need a supply of fresh blood to function correctly. It’s not difficult for the heart to pump blood into the testicles, because the flow is usually downhill. The problem is how to get the blood in the testicles back to the heart when a man is standing.
To help keep the blood from flowing backward, the veins leading away from the testicles contain small one-way valves. When these valves aren’t working correctly, the blood can pool in the veins and make them bulge like a small bag of worms. This creates a condition that’s called a varicocele.
Varicoceles are only prominent when a man is standing and the pull of gravity is at its worst. Varicoceles usually subside when he is lying down.
Approximately 1 out of 6 -to -7 boys between the ages of 15 and 25 have a varicocele. This is the age when the testicles are growing and need an increased supply of blood.
Sex Drive in The Netherlands
According to CNN: “Government ministers in the Netherlands have confirmed that it is legal for driving instructors to offer lessons in exchange for sex.”
This would explain the growing trend in The Netherlands for driver’s ed cars to be full-size instead of compact.
When Sex Always Hurts
Few men understand how painful sex can be for some women. This isn’t pain from sex that’s rushed or rough. It’s more like when a Q-tip is pressed against a woman’s genitals and it causes her to flinch in pain. Or when intercourse with a gentle lover creates an intense burning sensation in her vagina or makes her feel like she’s being stabbed with a knife. Or when the muscles around the opening of her vagina are clamped so tight she can’t insert a tampon.
Fortunately, for plenty of women with sexual pain, it’s not this severe. But it still makes sex something they endure rather than enjoy.
Men’s and Women’s breast tissue is more similar than we think
Until recently, scientists believed that a major difference between men’s and women’s breasts is that men’s breasts do not have the capacity to develop lobules and milk ducts. These are the structures that make it possible for women to nurse.
However, male-to-female transexuals who are taking a certain combination of drugs have been able to produce copious amounts of breast milk and have successfully breast feed babies. So while drugs alone can’t change a woman’s clitoris into a penis, the right combination of progestin, estrogen and domperidone can change a man’s breasts into fully functional female breasts.
Also, women who have a condition called AIS (where they have male pattern XY chromosomes instead of XX chromosomes) have a good chance of being able to nurse a baby if they take domperidone. So the potential to develop fully functional lobes and ducts seems to be there regardless of a person’s sex.
Guide To Getting It On
Watching porn can be fun, instructive (sometimes) and hot. It can be a way to treat yourself when your partner is having a night out with friends, or when you don’t have a partner and it’s just you and your hand. It can also be helpful to watch porn with a lover and have her tell you what parts she likes and what parts she doesn’t like. But try to keep it in perspective, because it really is a much different experience than what happens when you are making love in real life.”
Amazing Nature Photographer
These images are by one of the best nature photographers in the world, Matthieu Berroneau. See more of his incredible images on FLICKR and keep up with him on his FACEBOOK page.
Three kinds of casual sex—NSA, FWB, and Sex with an Ex
“I had a friends with benefits relationship when I was in high school with a good friend. We never really had “those” kind of feelings, but the sex was just great. I still consider it some of the best I’ve ever had. Guess you might say it’s still going on—sometimes when I am home visiting my folks we just get together for the sex.” female age 24
People often think of casual sex as being just one thing. But there are at least three very different kinds of casual sex: Sex with No Strings Attached, Friends with Benefits, and Sex with an Ex.
Survey of the Week
WOMAN—AGE 24
I’m working on grad school. I’m still not sure what I want to be when I grow up. I consider myself mostly straight. I’ve been in a relationship for 6 months. The sex is very good, maybe 4 times a week. But we don’t kiss as much as we did when we first started dating:(
I almost think I might be bi or maybe more. I’ve had 7 sexual partners. 3 were casual relationships. I have been taking the pill for a long time. I’m pretty happy with it. I also use condoms when I am first with someone new or if we have period sex.
When I first see a guy’s penis, I think about how big or small it is. Makes me shallow I know. Most of the guys I’ve been with have been, well, average but I like them that way.
Geocaching
It’s unlikely you’ll find condoms or a copy of the Guide To Getting It On in a Geocache. Still, Geocaching can make for a really fun date.
CLICK HERE to see a video that explains what Geocaching is.
CLICK HERE for the Geocaching website.
As for the people who whine about paying $9.95 for three months of Geocaching Premium—is everything in life supposed to be free?
The New Penis Transplants and Their Unexpected Side Effects
From Dr. Paul’s Blog at Psychology Today:
Most of us have heard about roadside bombs in Iraq and Afghanistan. But we seldom hear about the soldiers who had their penises amputated as a result of these bombs.
Now, the world’s first penis transplants are giving hope to these young men and their families.
You would think the biggest hurdles with the new transplants would be organ rejection or poor feeling and function. But one of the greatest challenges has been a failure of the recipient to accept the donor penis as his own—even if it has feeling and functions as well as his own penis did.
New Birth Control for Men
A study was recently completed that lays the groundwork for a form of male contraception that is easily reversible and doesn’t impact men’s hormones like the pill impacts women’s hormones. The media got it wrong and made it sound like this new form of birth control is just around the corner.
Survey of the Week
Here is one of more than 10,000 sex surveys that readers have submitted over the years. Males usually aren’t this articulate.
MALE AGE 33
I am totally straight.
I left home and became a Marine. I served my country and still wish I was. I was in a Special Incident Response Team that put me at ground zero on 9/11 for a week. Did a lot of traveling up and down the east coast. I have two kids and an ex-wife. I just got done hitting rock bottom and am now remembering who I was so I can be that person again. My goal is to better myself every day. I am valuable, confident and curious.
I’ve had approximately 20 sexual partners. 7 of them were casual sex relationships or one night stands. I am not currently in a relationship. Since my divorce I’ve had two”friends with benefits” relationships. I welcomed the relationships and I was able to be very open and free with the last woman. Both instances were hot and some of the best sex I have had. The first ended because I misread the cues and I tried to take it too far emotionally. This second was different, but I still got hung up on my emotions. I trying to learn how adapt and enjoy the freedom of “this is not going to last and it is physical only”.
I love to use my mouth on a woman and I love to give her oral sex. It’s one of my favorite things to do.
I typically will be there long enough to give her multiple orgasms. Sometimes my neck gets sore from giving oral sex. The best position I have found for me is when the woman sits on my face. Or have her sit in a chair. Slide your legs under the chair and you are right there. Advantage for her is that now she is in a really good position to watch and some women love to watch. The key to doing oral sex right is to make her as comfortable as possible and be able to sense her reaction to what you are doing. Also, the more comfortable you are the more relaxed and the longer you will spend pleasing her.
Naked Tea! Website of the Week
The website of the week is an absolute must for tea drinkers, and fun for everyone else. It’s made up photos of naked people drinking tea. The gallery above is a sample of what you’ll see at NAKED TEA.
From our sex survey
In my teens, a guy and I fooled around in his room. I used a vibrator I had in my purse. He started to fuck me on the edge of his desk but it was not very stable. All of a sudden, it fell apart with a crash. In walked his mother wondering what was going on. We were both naked and the vibrator was buzzing on the floor. His mother just shook her head and said "Why don't you use the bed?" and then "At least you used a condom." —woman age 35
A simple suggestion to help a guy get laid
Assuming she’s into you, your chances of getting laid will go way up if you have clean sheets and clean towels, a clean bathroom, and your dirty clothes aren’t all over the floor. You may not notice, but many women will.
Image from Our Public Privates.
Date Idea: College Volleyball or Gymnastics
If there’s a college nearby with a volleyball or gymnastics team, you can take a date for a fun and not every expensive evening. These are two sports that will give you time to talk between the action, and are held indoors for winter.
Bringing you a new dating idea every week.
QUESTION: How many sex partners have you had? ANSWER: "2, plus my computer."
Male from our sex survey
54 Condom Sampler Packs
Never assume that one size or shape of condom is best for all.
One of the best ways to get a condom that’s right for you and your partner is to try sampler packs. Find a brand that works well for both of you, and stock up. (Women can feel condoms, so be sure your partner is part of the selection process if you have a female partner.)
Here’s the most extensive list of links for condom sampler packs on the planet:
Women Don’t Like How Condoms Feel Any More Than Men Do
A lot of men don’t like the way condoms feel. But we assume this is not an issue for women.
Imagine my surprise at the groundswell of complaints I’ve received from women when I asked the following question on my sex survey: “Do condoms impact the sensation you receive from intercourse?” Here are fifteen of several hundred complaints from women about condoms:
“Condoms feel less intimate. I love the way the smooth, hard penis skin feels against my skin, but I can’t feel that with a condom. We use them anyway, though, because I don’t like the pill, and the intercourse still feels good.”
“I feel like I’ve tried just about every type of condom there is and they all limit sensation to one extent or another.”
“We now use the Nuvaring for birth control. But when we have used condoms, the sensation is much less sensitive, and I feel like there’s saran wrap between us. It simply doesn’t feel as good as skin on skin.”
“I have used condoms and honestly (although I would not say this to someone whose only option was condoms) it does make sex a little less intimate and less pleasurable for me.”
“When we don’t use condoms, it feels great. Maybe it’s partially psychological, but I enjoy feeling him inside me, uncovered. Also, him ejaculating inside of me is a sexual turn on.”
Take Our Sex Survey!
Some people say it’s the most interesting sex survey they’ve ever taken. The questions are all open-ended, so you give your opinion as opposed to “On a scale of 1 to 10…”
If you are a woman, CLICK HERE
If you are a man, CLICK HERE
“Help! My boyfriend’s penis is HUGE.”
Dear Dr. Paul,
My new boyfriend is wonderful and I really want to have sex with him. But he’s huge—porn sized and then some. I’m only 5’ 2” and worried he won’t fit. I’ve had intercourse with other guys, with no problem, but he’s way bigger. Do you have any advice?
Bambi
Dear Bambi,
Yes, I have advice.
One of the dumbest things that people tell women with partners who are really big is “a baby can pass through your vagina…” Seriously? Have you ever heard a woman in labor who’s trying to push a baby out? Intercourse isn’t supposed to be like that.
As for your height and weight, I’m not so sure that’s a determining factor. I interviewed a woman who is as petite as can be. Her husband’s penis is in the 98th percentile for size, and she’s never had any problem with intercourse. But another woman who is 5′ 10″ might have trouble with a penis that’s average size. So you can’t predict.
I am assuming you have had a recent exam and have talked to a gynecologist about this. If there is a source of pain that is independent of your partner’s penis, it is essential you resolve it first.
Then I would suggest you and Thor call it quits on any attempts at intercourse for the next month or two. There are lots of ways you can please each other sexually besides intercourse.
Marty Klein: What I Know About Your Man’s Sexuality
For an insightful article by Dr. Marty Klein, who is one of the world’s most highly regarded sex therapists and marriage counselors, CLICK HERE.