Athletes

Hi-I’m in the process of putting this page together and hope to have it done by the end of February. If you are an athlete and have had an experience you’d like to let me know about, please use the contact form. It comes to me and only...

Consent: Are You Good? A Free and Very Compelling Chapter

Consent in sex is massively important, yet it can be very confusing–especially because of the well-intended but often misleading slogans about consent from Title IX. Both men and women will find this free chapter from the Guide To Getting It On to be one of the most helpful...

Book

The printed version of the new 10th edition (all 808 pages!) is usually available for under $20 on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. The Kindle and iBooks versions of the new 10th edition with the illustrations in color are only $9.95.     Technology has changed since the...

Glossary

We are in the process of updating the glossary and installing it. It is massive and giving us all kinds of issues in WordPress. We hope to have it up by the first week in February. Thanks for your patience.

This Biscotti Recipe Won 2nd Place at the Oregon State Fair

This is the biscotti recipe I used to win a 2nd place ribbon at the Oregon State Fair. Given there were several biscotti entries, I think it’s a solid bet. I was originally going to use the biscotti recipe from the excellent Cook’s Illustrated Baking Book, because they have done research...

About

About Dr. Paul Paul Joannides, Psy.D. is a research psychoanalyst. He is the author of the Guide To Getting It On, an award-winning book on sex that’s been used in dozens of college sex-education courses and has won praise in Rolling Stone, Playboy and Oprah Magazine. Paul has...

Facials: Why Most Women Don’t Like Men to Come in Their Face

You’d never know it from watching porn, but most women don’t like it when men ejaculate on their face. “My boyfriend cums on my chest, and it turns me on in ways I’d have trouble describing. It puts me in an animal state of mind. But on my...

How to Increase Testicle Size, Semen Volume, Fertility, and Testosterone in Men

A recent study that found young men who take fish oil supplements have larger testicles, more semen volume, a higher level of testosterone, and better sperm quality. This appears to be a direct result of the fish oil supplements as opposed to differences in lifestyle. Here’s a link...

Female and Male Bodies Are More Different than We Previously Thought, and Why This Matters

There are far more differences between men’s and women’s bodies than the ones we enjoy when we are having sex and watching porn. This video shows why these differences are important, and how estrogen and testosterone are only a part of what makes us male or female.

How a Tipped Uterus Can Impact Sex

Women often assume there is something wrong with them if certain intercourse positions aren’t comfortable. This video shows why this is not true, and why it’s important for each couple to experiment and find which positions feel best for them—regardless of what you read about the latest and...