For Sex with a CoWorker Chapter, an illustration of a business woman and man leaving an elevator, with she slyly reaching behind her and grabbing him in the crotch.

FREE Chapter: Sex with a Co-Worker

When you date someone you meet through work, you know what they look like, how they behave under stress and how they treat others. You’ll know if they have a good sense of humor and if they have a solid work ethic. If they have personality problems, their fellow workers will usually rat them out. These can be luxuries in the age of digital dating when what you see is not necessarily what you get.

People you meet through work will often be geographically desirable, unless they’re in the Omaha office and you’re in Maine. You won’t have to explain your company’s quirks and culture to them, and there’s a good chance you’ll have each other’s backs.

There can also be problems. So think of this chapter as the missing section from your employee handbook—on negotiating the workplace environment when a fellow employees’ legs are wrapped around yours when you are off the clock.

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FREE Chapter: Sex during Pregnancy

Some pregnant women will want more intimacy than ever before, while others will want space—sometimes vast amounts of space. This can be confusing for a dad-to-be, as he is never quite sure if the love of his life wants to snuggle or pluck his eyes out. Also, don’t think that the dad-to-be isn’t experiencing his own set of pregnancy-related emotions. These may cause him to hesitate sexually while his child-to-be is turning somersaults half a penis-length away. The mom-to-be might be wanting to rip his clothes off, and he’s suddenly prim and proper.

This chapter is about sex during pregnancy, from orgasm-related uterine contractions to swelling genitals and fetal brain development. For most couples, anything that felt good before conception is perfectly okay after, including oral sex, anal sex, vibrator play and vanilla lovemaking. But no matter what you read in this chapter or anywhere else, please discuss sex during your pregnancy with your healthcare provider. There might be situations where it is prudent to alter some of the more outrageous ways that you and your partner enjoy sex.

Plenty of physicians encourage couples to have sex during pregnancy. Obstetricians rely on people having healthy sex lives in order to keep from going broke. So do pediatricians, gynecologists, Lamaze instructors and everyone else in the healthcare industry. There is no way your physician wants you getting out of practice with intercourse as long as the possibility exists that you might have more kids. So don’t be afraid to ask.

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FREE Chapter: Kink in the Animal Kingdom

Are humans the only animals who have sex for pleasure in addition to reproduction? Are the other animals limited to having sex for reproduction and dominance only? Is there no kink in the rest of the animal kingdom? Until recently, that’s what the biologists had told us. Fortunately, some biologists have been reconsidering the idea that humans are the only animals who have sex just for the heck of it. So let’s pretend you are a biology professor who wants to study sex in the jungle…

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FREE Chapter: MRIs of Sexual Arousal

MRIs or neuroimaging studies of the brain and crotch are the future of sex research. However, there currently exist serious limitations of brain-imaging technology and human behavior. This chapter will give you an idea of the challenges that researchers have to deal with as they are exploring this virgin territory. Understanding the limitations of current technology is especially important given the media’s penchant for making way too much of findings that are tentative and have yet to be replicated and validated.

When researchers were looking for the parts of the brain that light up during sexual arousal, they discovered that parts of the brain were actually shutting down. This is the opposite from what you would think. Shouldn’t sexual arousal light up the brain, with sparks of activity arc- ing from ear to ear? However, it appears that in order to free ourselves to become fully aroused, we need to shut down parts of our brains. This would validate what women often say who take our sex survey. When asked to describe what intercourse feels like when it’s really good, they often say the rest of the world disappears, for example:

“When it’s really good, I feel like the world just stops and my mind goes blank and all I want to do is feel every single move, and enjoy each breath. But when its bad, I can’t stop thinking about everything other than what is really going on. My mind will be racing.” female age 22

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The one constant in almost everything written about sex and diabetes is that no humor is allowed. It seems the minute a person is diagnosed with diabetes, the part of their brain that processes humor is presumed to suffer from permanent low blood sugar. Not to worry with this chapter!

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FREE Chapter: Sex in the Military

It’s not like soldiers leave their sex drives in their home towns, but the military does not always provide helpful information about sexuality for new recruits. Since the military does not publish reports on the sexual practices of its members, we have put this information together based on clandestine reports from the field.

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FREE Chapter: Birth Control–Sperm v. Egg

In the United States, 49% of pregnancies in women under the age of 34 are neither planned nor intended. The number rises to 75% for women over 40, and a whopping 80% of teen pregnancies are not wanted. Two-out-of-three unplanned teenage pregnancies happen to girls between the ages of 18 and 20—ages where you’d least expect teenage pregnancies to occur. It seems that using effective birth control is not always the priority it should be.

(While IUDs are far more effective for birth control than condoms, using condoms helps prevent the spread of diseases and is far better than using nothing. To find the brand of condoms that work best for you, here are links to condom sampler packs.)

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For our chapter on sexually transmitted infections there is an image of an HIV virus as seen through an electron microscope (colorized) with red blood cellist the background.

FREE Chapter: Gnarly Sex Germs—aka Sexually Transmitted Infections

The most common reason for reading about Sexually Transmitted Infections is when you are worried about having one, or when someone you had sex with a few weeks ago just sent you a text that starts with “BTW…” This chapter on gnarly sex germs (STIs) reads way better than most, and provides you with helpful links when you need to do further research.

Using condoms does help prevent the spread of most sexually transmitted infections. Here are links to different condom sampler packs to help you find the kind of condoms that work best for you.

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FREE Chapter: Pee Shy? Bashful Bladder?

Do you find it nearly impossible to pee in a public restroom? Millions of people have what is known as Bashful Bladder Syndrome (aka, “paruresis” or being “pee shy”). We are happy to provide you with helpful information about this very challenging and frustrating condition.

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For our chapter on shaving body hair: this is an illustration of a hand pushed lawnmower cutting a path through the pubic hair on a woman's genitals.

FREE Chapter: Shaving Down Below

This free chapter explains more about body hair and ways to remove it than most people know, including some of the bigger myths about shaving.

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FREE Chapter: Sex and Breast, Brain & Ball Cancer

If you have been searching for honest and truly helpful information about sex and cancer, you’ve finally found it! Whether it’s breast cancer, brain cancer, or cancer of the testicles, you will receive important insights and helpful suggestions.

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FREE Chapter: On Needles and Pins: Piercings & Tattoos

If you are thinking about getting a tattoo or a tongue, body, or genital piercing, here are some of the basics you’ll need to know. Included are helpful tips about having sex when you or your partner has genital, tongue or nipple piercings.

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FREE Chapter: I Knew The Bride — Long Term Relationships

This chapter is about marriage and long term relationships. It doesn’t pretend to be comprehensive, but it does speak about weddings, tradition, sex in marriage, fights, make-up sex, kids and divorce.

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FREE Chapter: The Dirty Word Chapter

You might be wondering why a chapter on dirty words would be in such a fine and upstanding book as the “Guide to Getting It On.” Perhaps there is more to dirty words than meets the ear. Find out in this brief but culturally insightful chapter.

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When I had to put the new edition of the Guide To Getting It On on a diet, this chapter and I Knew The Bride, Sex in Longterm Relationships were two of the chapters I decided to leave out. This is something I’m now regretting, because I think they are important chapters to read, and they are brief.

For the chapter Talking To Your Partner About Sex: this illustration is of a couple having rear entry intercourse, with woman on all fours and man on his knees behind her, while both are on their laptops.

FREE Chapter: Talking To Your Partner about Sex

One of the keys to having good sex is feeling comfortable talking to your partner about sex, but it’s an area many of us struggle with. You might find many dividends from sharing this chapter with a partner.

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